Infidelity: Top ten reasons why men are driven to cheat
Eight out of ten men and six in ten women cheat on their partner during marriage and permanent relationships, while, even in Greece, one in two couples is heading for divorce, even just six months after the wedding.
At the start of their life together, couples enjoy having sex almost everyday and contend that this will go on for years. This is because sexual intercourse and sexual identification is the energy that guides two people towards marriage and happiness. Unfortunately, it doesn’t last long.
According to a research carried out by the Andrology Institute Athens, the famous “seven-year itch” is very often proven right as sexual infidelity is quite common between couples who have been together for a long time. But what drives men to infidelity?
“Through a new research, we tried to justify why men cheat more, and which are the reasons for cheating (qualitative analysis) as opposed to how many times they cheat (quantitative analysis), points out Dr. Konstantinos Konstantinidis, Urologist-Andrologist (www.andrologia.gr), President of the Institute, listing the ten reasons that drive a man to cheat on his partner:
- Sexual boredom! It usually starts after six months of living together and reaches its peak at twelve months. According to the research, this is the primary reason why men are driven to infidelity…
In medical terms, it is the reduction of androgens and the increase of oxytocin (research on students demonstrate this biological transformation).
Androgen is responsible for the desire and impulse both in men and women.
- Children: Parenthood brings an increase in oxytocin, the hormone that promotes the feelings of warmth and loving and reduces male impulse that is fuelled by androgens.
- The friendship that grows between the couple is the third cause of infidelity as lust is replaced by love.
- Intimacy or, in other words, familiarity with the mystery surrounding Venus: never will an everyday picture resemble the goddess of a mistress as created by the male brain.
- A woman’s changing role, from an attractive mistress and “all men’s desire” to a mother and faithful partner, someone no one will chase after. When a man feels that a woman “belongs” to him, he might loose interest in her or want to chase after another woman.
- Quarrels and conflicts between two people, who live together, even when they are about the most trivial things, will soon put out the flame that sparks love and sexual tension.
- The deconstruction of man’s role as a knight, lover, protector, a brilliant male that slowly fades into a partner in a day-to-day relationship.
- The certainty that when a man is out with his friends he might as well be out with his mistress who is rival.
- The classical attitude of a male warrior who, having conquered Troy, forgets about Helen and goes on to take over new castles.
- The change of social circumstances, the man working as an employee, being a father, a lover, worn out in terms of finances, poor in body and soul, his wife a defeated lover who life transformed from Mistress of desire to a housewife.
“Today one out of three men who takes pills to achieve an erection is married and aged 45-55, wealthy and a successful member of society. He has a structured social life and he is generally pleased, but he describes himself as lacking sexual desire within marriage, without however wanting to cheat on his wife as he considers his family as a very important asset and as the source of his happiness.
Another 30% of men who take pills to achieve an erection are polygamous with extra-marital activities (e.g. the weekend’s Mistress). The remaining approximately 30% are men who actually have functional problems (severe) and lose their sexual ability. Most men (90%) do not take any medication because they do not want to find a solution. They believe they are living a good life with their partner without having sex (living in love and companionship).
Therefore, today, only 6% of men with sexual problems are seeking solutions, while the largest part of this population is not interested in handling the situation. In other words, it seems that these men have come in terms with abstaining from sex or fear that the drug will not provide a spontaneous solution to their desire for sex.
90% of men seek solutions only when pressed by their partner or when they feel that their partner has a lover.
“Today, despite all the information about sex and the so-called “sexual release” that the Greek society is experiencing, men don’t admit their problem or are up to 7 years late in searching for a solution,” concludes Mr. Konstantinidis.
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